I don’t as a rule spend a great deal of time on Facebook, but the times that I go there, I check on a few things, then leave again for the better part of day or more. I’m a member of quite a few diverse groups, and yes, some of them are kink related. Though I do my best to relegate the ‘kink’ portion of my life from the interests of vanilla people who I’m related to, friends with on Facebook, simply because it’s a conversation I really don’t think I need to be having with them.
One of the groups that I have been a member of for many months is ‘Friends who like Steel Restraints’. It’s mostly a picture sharing group, with an occasional post from someone detailing their interest with the topic. So far as I can tell, there’s one Admin, she’s submissive, but is fairly active. In the last week there’s been a couple of members that have been posting pictures that are most definitely off-topic. Yes, they have references to BDSM in them, however none of them have steel restraints, which is the topic of the group. The member that keeps reoffending is from the Middle East, so I can pretty much guarantee that English is not his primary language. Seeing as I’ve been berating him for his pictures for the last week, he’s been on occasion messaging me asking what my problem is, and why I’m so irate over his pictures. I keep explaining over and over that his pictures are inappropriate for the group. But he just doesn’t get it. Too, up until yesterday, I was pretty much the only one in the group (of over 4,000 people) who has said anything negative. Usually there are comments like “Nice” and “Wish it was me” and so on. I suppose many people are just too polite to mention that he’s not following the rules of the group.
Late last night, someone in the group had ‘liked’ my comments and observations, and then the offending pictures disappeared by this morning. I had found one of the original posts by the Admin and asked if she was interested in sharing duties as Admin, if she was feeling overwhelmed. I never got a reply from her, so I guess she feels that she’s got a good handle on the situation. Which is fine, it’s her baby, let her deal with the brouhaha. Also this morning, someone posted a series of pictures that were dead on with the topic of the group, so not only did I thumbs up it, I also commented thanking her for posting it. She replied while I was at work, and I answered. She hasn’t replied to that reply, but that’s ok. I posited some theories about Gor, as her username started with ‘Kajira’, and I have some knowledge of the Normanian universe. Read the books at an earlier time in my journey.
The few pictures that I’ve posted to the group have been well received, and even now a couple of months later, people are still commenting and liking them. So I know I, at least am on the right side of the angels. I really didn’t want to leave the group, as the topic is something I’m very interested in. Just want it to be good for everyone there, without being tainted by either bad apples, or clueless figs.