Category: Technical

Another stint in FB Jail

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Honestly, the closest I can equate what I feel this to be is in kindergarten.  Posting something on what’s basically an adult forum, (since the group I’m in doesn’t allow anyone under 18) and getting dinged by an algorithm.  I’ll leave it to you to decide if what you’re seeing is offensive.  Because me, personally?  I don’t.  And neither does anyone in the group that I’m in because the post has been liked and shared over a hundred times in the last couple of hours.

Ecch.  So pissed right now.  Have a headache and I’m going to bed.

 

FB Jail

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After having trouble with the group on Facebook, I thought I would post some pictures to get the party going again.  Well, apparently that was a bad move.  At least with one of the pictures.  I wasn’t even considering implications, but I just landed in Facebook Jail.  Here’s Why:

FB-Jail I have to admit this is the first time I’ve ever been censored like this on Facebook. When I was posting this picture in concert with the other ones, it didn’t even occur to me that there was going to be a problem. Now that this happened it makes sense considering that A) It’s a public group, and B) Facebook has gotten a lot more restrictive over the years. Definitely not the Wild West it used to be.

I’ve made references about how bad its gotten over the months with making everyone adhere to specific requirements as well as making sure that any content is nearly G-rated before anyone else can see it.  Have to protect the kids, I suppose.  To the point that kids aren’t going to be able to fend for themselves when they grow up.  Between Tumblr and Instagram censoring and eliminating people’s accounts for what they term to be ‘questionable content’, and many people who have kink inclined interests being relegated away from ‘free’ sites, I just wonder at the end what the whole world is going to look like online and be like.  The Internet was supposed to be a place where anyone was welcome, and could share themselves.  Now I understand of course there are certain aspects of people’s lives that probably shouldn’t be shared, but sometimes self-policing is better than allowing the ‘thought police’ to have their way.

Anyway, I’m banned from posting or comment on FB for the next 24 hours.  Believe me, it’s not going be too much of a hardship.

Changing things around

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If you happen to be a follower of this blog, you’ll note already that I’ve changed a couple of things about how the blog works.  First and foremost, I relegated the ‘landing page’ to just another page in the header and made the blog posts the ‘star’ of the blog.  I tried it the other way for about 6 months, but it’s always sort of stuck in the back of my head as probably not the best way to present the blog.  So back to the default method of the posts up front.

I’m also mulling around changing the theme of the blog, in two distinct ways.  When I started the blog, it was mainly a ‘kink first’ blog, with a plan of having a ‘less kink’ blog elsewhere somewhere down the line.  At the time, I was expecting, nigh planning on being able to meet with my slave many times over the course of the year, and being able to chronicle about our adventures.  But, unfortunately, that didn’t happen.  So this blog became more of an amalgam of vanilla things that are happening in my life, with the occasional rant or mention of kink in passing.

Then, unexpectedly about a month ago my web host suddenly had a major issue with websites being available.  All too often over the last three weeks, it was unavailable because the web host wasn’t able to keep it online.  Getting server errors and a slow loading blog was very frustrating to my subscribers, and certainly it was no picnic for me either.  Watching my web traffic/bandwidth dwindle day after day was really beginning to piss me off, so much so that I took one of my domains and moved it to another server host.  Within the last couple of days the situation on the original web server has improved somewhat, and I’ve gotten assurances from them that they’ve not only identified the main problem, but they believe it’s been corrected.  So I’ve shelved the blog on the alternate server for the time being.  I’m still hedging my bets and leaving the other domain at it for now however.

I dusted off the blog I spoke about above and am posting to it as regularly as my brain can think of things to post to it.  Without much in the way of ‘kink’ to post here, I’m not completely certain I’m going to keep this blog active.  But I thought I’d make an update and let anyone that cared to know, what was going on.

We’ll see how it all goes.

Still slow but coming back

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First off, my apologies for not posting more this month.  Been a bit of a slog with the web host that I use having a brain fart.  Every time that I want to check the blog, it takes more than 30-45 seconds to load (if not longer) and no one wants to wait as if they’re connected via dial-up for something to load.  They’ll lose interest and go somewhere else.

Earlier this week I took one of my domains and moved it to a different adult-friendly server with the hopes of moving this blog over to there.  Of course, nothing like that is easy either.  Between gaps, I was able to back up the blog here and try to move it, but for whatever reason, it wasn’t going. It would transfer, but wouldn’t load on the new server.  Even yesterday when this blog finally came back up, I attempted to use the ‘IMPORT/EXPORT’ feature on WP, but the new version of WP wouldn’t accept it, so I finally gave up.

This morning, there’s possibly good news.  Traffic on my various websites is up again (it had been down below 1 GB for over a week now) which means that people are able to get to them, and when I attempted to come here, it loaded after about 10 seconds.  Still, an eternity when you’re on a 100mbs hi-speed connection, but at least it’s way better than it has been. 

In the interim I’ve been reading others’ blogs and commenting on them, getting the occasional follow-back and spending time doing other things around the house, around the grounds and yep still buying toys.  Made a few missteps in that regard in the last week, which I’ll be detailing in the next couple of days.  There’s something to be said about ‘measure twice, order once’.  Fortunately, I didn’t outlay a few hundred dollars for that mistake.  Whew. 

Anyway, just thought I’d post an update here.  Have to work, to pay for the ability to do all this stuff, so I’m outta here for now.  Be good everyone.  Well, not too good. 

Slow as molasses

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Still having trouble with this blog running slowly.  I’ve sent messages to both my web hosting company, and WordPress.org, but the answers are slow in coming as well.  My web hosting company is going through an upgrade of all their systems and transferred everything to new equipment, so there’s been a complete revamp of how it all is set up in the background that I have to get used to.  Pretty much that’s where the trouble began.  Once the migration was complete, I was unable to find the database that corresponded to this blog.  I emailed the support team at the web host, but they couldn’t seem to find it either.  Finally, I did a good amount of digging and discovered that it was indeed there, except that the identifier on it had changed, so my blog was unable to find it.  Once I fixed that, and changed the corresponding file on WP to point it in the right direction, I thought everything was going to be ok.  Didn’t turn out to be the case, naturally.

The blog continues to load slowly.  I thought it was just me experiencing it, but my slave mentioned it to me the other day as well.  The blog that I have for her, which is also hosted on the same server, and the same domain, runs slowly as well.  So I’m not entirely certain why that is since it’s a different setup through WordPress, but it’s all hosted in the same location.  I have many other domains here, and they all load just fine.  Just the blogs seem to be affected.  The only common denominator appears to be that the blogs utilize databases.  

Frustrating.  I hope I can figure this out.

Sometimes there’s just not enough Motrin

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This past fall I was informed by my web hosting company that they were upgrading their servers, and would eventually be moving all the accounts that they host to a new upgraded platform.  The process was going to take the better part of 6-8 months, and when the time came for my account to be moved, I’d be informed by email.  Well, that time arrived last week, and I received the rather lengthy email with a veritable mountain of information.  I have more than a few domains that I’ve purchased over the years, and many of those domains also have sub-domains (like this blog for instance).

It’s not enough that they’re going to be moving/upgrading the hosting, they’re upgrading/moving the emails associated with the accounts as well.  Since I use Mozilla’s Thunderbird program for corralling my emails, I had to do a little surgery on how the program interacts with the server to collect them.  That was the easy part.  The difficulty came when the respective domains were moved to the new server. 

On the previous server, when you set up your domain, it was pretty straightforward.  If you wanted to upload (FTP) your site, you designed your pages and uploaded them right to the main directory of your website.  Bim bam boom, easy.  With the new system, you have to use a sub-directory that they’ve installed called ‘public_html‘.  All of your files are now there.  One extra step.  For a normal everyday website that’s not a problem, because the way they set it up internally.  If one were to type in http://www.website.com, the server forwards the subdirectory’s contents to the main, and you see the website that you wanted to view.  As I discovered, it doesn’t work that way with WordPress.

Basically, it took me the better part of 2 nights to resurrect this blog, because of the problem with the subdirectory.  Add in the fact that my hosting server is in Germany, so there’s a 5-6 hour time difference depending on when they enact Daylight Savings Time.  Too, their troubleshooters primarily speak German, not English, so everything has to go through a translator.  Finally (there’s always one more thing, right?) the database that WordPress relies on for much of the nuts and bolts of how it works was missing.  I emailed the server troubleshooters several times about it and they finally sent me a screenshot of the old server, in my account, and it wasn’t there either.  Referenced to in the WordPress admin file, but the database was just gone.  Or, at least I thought it was.  After looking a little closer at the details of all the databases, I discovered that the one I was looking for was there, but for some inexplicable reason, the identifying code had changed.  Another cup of tea, a little more angst, and some time spent working with the Vaultpress people associated with Jetpack, and I had it all humming again.  It’s still running a bit sluggish a week later, but it’s working.  And that’s what’s important.

Hit and Miss

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Even though it’s been a good 8 months since I last played actively in BDSM, I’m still shopping for good bargains on toys.  Fetlife, Craigslist, Facebook (occasionally) and eBay remain good places to find items that others no longer need/want, new items from (online) storefronts at discounted prices, and items that can be repurposed if possible into additions for my toy collection.

Of course, when you do your shopping online, you run into occasional problems in descriptions, some are vague, others claim to be bigger or smaller than they actually are, so you have to be careful in what you’re offering, or agreeing to pay when the seller asks a certain price.

This week I purchased two steel restraints from two different sellers on eBay.  One is an established company down in Texas; Cuffstore.  They sell BDSM items mainly that are imported from Pakistan.  The steel restraints are generally stamped with the acronym KUB, which stands for ‘KUBind Industries‘ and they’ve been around for many years.  Fortunately, there are several US-based companies that do the importing from them, so one doesn’t necessarily have to deal with customs or items that are either lost in shipping or detained at the border.  Shipping internationally isn’t as easy as it used to be, due to changing political climates and so on.

The other restraint actually came from someone that I knew in passing from the old days on Compuserve.  (Small World) He has a fledgling business where he builds extremely pricey spanking benches.  He calls them ‘The Spankmeister‘.  I only managed to recognize who he was from the name that he used on eBay, it was unique and it caused me to remember him. Now I purchased a one-off spanking bench from someone in Oklahoma on eBay about 20 years ago.  As I recall I paid something like $65 for it, and another (don’t quote me) $40 in shipping as it came by bus.  Yes, it was placed on a bus in the luggage/storage bay and I picked it up at the local bus depot.  This fellow prices his bench at a staggering $1500 (USD) and claims that it’s worth every penny.  I have friends that received a prototype of his original design, they painted it purple (her favorite color) and it’s probably still sitting in their house in NH unless someone else is living there now.

Getting back to the topic, both of the restraints were delivered in the mail yesterday while I was at work. Upon coming home, I opened them, looked them over, did a little marveling at how they were constructed and so on, then tried them out. On me. Since I don’t have a model available to try things out on, and my girl is 3 states away, I tend to do my testing out with myself as the model. I figure the circumference of my wrist and/or ankle (depending) is in the same neighborhood as my girl, so if it doesn’t fit me, it’s unlikely to fit her. The KUB restraint is constructed a little differently than the black one, it has an oval shape that better accommodates the wrist, so it fits me ok. When I went to secure the black restraint, I discovered it’s about a 1/2 inch too small. Won’t come together without pinching my skin. Too, it doesn’t have the oval shape of the other, it’s merely a circle. As I’ve mentioned to my girl on multiple occasions, if something is too large, there are workarounds to pad her limbs to make it snugger. With steel, if it’s too small, that’s it…it’s too small. Of course, it can be repurposed into something else, like a spreader bar, or hung on the wall of the playspace for decoration, so it’s not as if I’m going to sell it. (Sorry nijntje)

Either way, I figure they’re both a good investment. I didn’t pay over and above what one would for similar products, and it should give me the sufficient happiness factor that I was aiming for when I initially made plans to buy them. Of course, the proof in the end is how well they work on my girl, since that’s who’s going to be wearing them for the majority of the time. So yes, there will be revisitation on this issue.