Keeping it fresh from a distance
My pet and I have an LDR (Long Distance Relationship). We met on the fetish board Fetlife a couple of years ago when I was still in the process of looking for a submissive and just coincidentally she was too. Through trials and tribulations, many conversations and more than a little angst, we tried our connection with her as the Dominant and myself as the submissive and it worked for awhile. But as time passed we both discovered (even after meeting in person) that it wasn’t working as well as it could and switched roles back in January. Since then, it’s been working better, though as yet we haven’t had a chance to see how it works in a face to face capacity. Such is the way of the LDR, you have to try your best to keep things fresh so that you don’t get bogged down with the mundane, or worse yet deep six your relationship by saying or doing the wrong thing when you feel that things are getting stale.
With my girl, we keep in contact daily, often several times a day, utilizing social media as well as text, phone, and email as necessary. Due to work obligations on both ends, it’s not always easy or simple to keep in contact, but I make it a point to attempt to be there in the evening for her, we share our respective days, provide support where necessary and talk about our future. Keeping the future as the mutual target is essential, given that our time together, living under the same roof will be years from now. We both know the risks and the possibilities inherent in our situation, we’ve accepted it and moved on from that. Yes, it can be a little thorn in the side (or in the mind), but we’ve made a commitment to one another and intend to see it through. Having been in more than a few LDRs already, I know it’s not going to be in the least bit easy. We just have to make time for visits, and when those visits come, cram as much as we can into the time together, since it might very well be weeks even months before it happens again.
I’ve also been recording audio for her to listen to as she exercises. Right now it’s chapters from The Marketplace Series by Laura Antoniou. Later on it will be books that I think she needs to be exposed to. A conversation recently touched on Lewis Carroll’s Through the Looking Glass, which my pet informed me she’s never read before. So she wasn’t aware of the reference I made. I certainly can’t punish her for not reading some of the classics of literature. Or I could, just by recording them on audio and making her listen to them. But she says she likes the sound of my voice! Some punishment, that… hmm.
Getting back to the gist of this entry, we have to keep it fresh, in order to make it to the end. Together.