Which is better?
My slave and I were having a conversation on Friday evening, and she brought to my attention a fledgling plan that she’d been putting together involving a quick trip to come visit me on my upcoming vacation.
Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the effort on her part, but there are other things to consider. While it would be nice to see her for a day or so, I and my wife are in the midst of cleaning the house and getting it ready for company that had already planned to be here, hence the need for my taking vacation in the first place. Should my slave show up rather unexpectedly, with the whole purpose of being here wanting to spend time with me, I wouldn’t be able to, since I already have my time alloted, if you will. Money is rather tight to begin with, so a trip here from where she is, is going to cost more than a few bucks for gas. Too, she’s not going to be traveling alone, so there’s her companions to consider as well.
Believe me, I’m getting very antsy about seeing her as well. It’s been 11 months now since the last time I saw her, and as I’ve mentioned countless times, our intent in this relationship was based on seeing each other several times a year, not just once. One cannot adequately build on extremely sporadic meetings. Believe me, I tried this already twice and it didn’t work out very well either time. Doing this sort of thing at a distance quickly becomes tedious, as you’re basically left with domination/submission from afar, and there’s little or no way to really build anything that will last. Sure, there’s daily communication, but it’s not a good substitute for some things others that have daily face to face contact may take for granted.
If I was living on my own, more than likely, she would already be here. But with the wife in the mix, some things have to take precedence. My slave already understands most of this, as we’ve talked about it more times than either of us would really care about, I expect. Just another wrinkle in this relationship of ours.
Personally, I want time to work on things, build on what we were working on last year and have alone time, play time, and even down time together. Can’t really have that if you’re only in each others’ company for a few hours and then gone again. That’s like teasing in a bad way.
That’s my thoughts on the issue, at any rate. It may not be preferable to wait in the short-term, but you get more ‘bang for your buck’ if you make it worthwhile in the long run.